Anger Management: Anger is a normal emotion; one among a range of emotions that we all experience on a continual basis. There is much energy in anger and this energy can be focused productively (at the problem) or unproductively (at the perceived cause of the problem). Sometimes the perception of our situation is inaccurate and could be revised to more adequately accommodate the reality of our situation.

Addictions: Addiction can take many forms, providing the function of reducing the anxiety brought on by the realities of our everyday lives. Addictions are the exaggeration of habit patterns we have formed in the past as a mechanism of dealing with the aforementioned anxiety. These addictions have lost their utility in the present and have themselves become anxiety producing. When one is able to locate the anxiety producing contents (memories, traumatic past events, etc.) and develop the new habit of approaching, rather than avoiding anxiety, the pressure to repeat the habitual behavior is lessened and can then be extinguished.

Family Counseling: The family
is the birthplace of all the dynamics of interpersonal relationship that show up later in our lives in a variety of locations; intimate relationships, friendships, work associations, and other contexts. All current relationship contexts are affected by these "learned" family dynamics and are then taken for granted as relationship “norms”. Whether we resist the old patterns or repeat them, they remain present, semi-invisible, and/or tenaciously resistant to change. When we can revise their meaning in our current lives we can then begin to release the unhealthy hold that these old patterns may have on us.

Abuse Counseling: Abuse by a loved one is one of the most hurtful experiences we can ever have in our lives. Part of its effect comes from its incomprehensibility; “how can this person who claims to love me do these hurtful things to me?” Emotional/verbal abuse may or may not be followed by physical abuse but both types of abuse leave scars that take time to heal and can leave us with many symptoms of post-trauma stress to deal with.  Coming to terms with the reality that you did NOT do anything to cause the other’s actions can be a difficult task for some. Measures to be taken to protect one’s self emotionally, and if necessary, physically, become the initial focus of our therapy.

Self Esteem: Our sense of self-worth is frequently a much more fragile thing than we are usually willing to admit; even to ourselves. Even with loving family support and good friendships or intimate relationships, we may be assaulted regularly by things that attack our self-esteem. Events can occur in our lives that leave us wondering “how did I get to this place in my life?” and when the answers don’t come, we may begin to look for  things we did wrong or things we could do differently  We may have lost the sense of meaning in our life, meaning that gives it a purpose. Sometimes having someone to work with as we clarify things for ourselves or revise our life perspective, can go a long way in restoring our sense of personal value, meaning, and purpose.

Co-dependence: This term has been used in so many contexts and with so many definitions it has almost lost its meaning. The dynamic it is meant to describe is as follows. One person believes that they are responsible for “managing” the emotional state of another individual who is usually closely connected to them (this process may be one-way between the two or it may be two-way). The person doing the managing of the other usually has set aside their own emotional needs in order to “take care” of the other individual. The dynamic set up here is not healthy for either individual involved and in a therapeutic setting, “boundaries” between the two are explored to the benefit of both.

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